i have had people lie on me- lie to me over and over-
cheat on me-
tease me-
break my heart-
play me for a fool- those kinds of things-
people i loved- friends, family, loved ones-
how do you control your anger towards these people without hurting yourself or others? thanks-
go boxing or work out
stop talking with them
and if you cant take it anymore tell them what you feel about them :)
thats what i do all the time :) it works
i have anger issues, and i do not like myself when i get pissed off, so the best thing is let those people know or NOT and just move on !! DO NOT let people in your life that are like that,, stick with a happy crowd ; )) positive people are the best one's out there...
Just ignore them. I had many of them in my life too. Its a torcher to try to get along with them. Divert yourself by doing stuffs if you are very angry or hurt. If you continue to get along with them you might feel a strong urge to hurt them like they hurt you. So, just stay away.
Dont let the your inner demon take over you.
You have to consider the source. The person is a jerk.
Find good friends, but remember friends won't do this to you.
throw a cup of gasoline on them and chase them with a zippo.
Why do you "hang around" with such people? Dump them! They're making your life miserable!
Not be one of them!
lol, i dont control my anger i whoop they @ss
Sorry this is long but,My story will touch your life take it for what its worth OOOHHH yes all of the above . Forgivness and releasing them is the key (eventhough they do not deserve it) it frees you to go on with your life adn is for our benifet NOT thiers. . If we remain angry bitter WE are the ones suffering and they have moved on with thier life adn forgotten about us. . So who suffers we do!
And yes I have been one that struggles with this. I allwasy used to take matters into my own hands. forgivness makes us the better person. We come out ahead with less grey hairs and less wrinkles.
Lone behold on more then one occassion has God let me know through others they are having it hard. For what they did to me. I will share them (below)
He reeassures me time and time again he is dealing with them. He does it better then we do.
I have been hurt over and over agian in life. sometimes devestared by the crulty of people when all you do is love and they crap on you. Been there(I sharepeople who constantly lied about the co-worker that got fired and that went nuts on one of your earlier posts several months back about her hubby liking me and I dont do that kind of stuff)
Thats is who people are and if they treat you like that it will allways come back on them.
Here is examples on how God works adn deals with the offenders who hurt us.
I had just gotten saved and was seeking God a pretty new christian still going to bars still hanging out. You get the picture.
, I really really liked this (not to good looking) but very nice and fun guy (years ago) . I will call him (F)
I told him a secret of what my ex boyfriend (Dave) did to me and lied denied it too ( I wont say what it is here) that was really embarressing and something I would have to live with the rest of my days.
F shared about the many (more GIANT skelatons in HIS Closet that COULD NOT even compare to what happened to me)
Married 3 times 1 wife caught with another man in bed, another caught with a female. ect
F. told me that was allright and accepted me my past dont matter. I thought I was safely moving on with my life from my ex boyfriend.and trusted F was telling the truth. Yeah right!
He told me to meet him at the bar one night becasue he had somethig to tell me.
I was very anxious and nervous but really liked him.
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F's friends said "why are you with him he is ugly Your too pretty for him"! They would joke with me allways about that. I said because he is a nice guy. (Before the rejection incident)
F told me to meet him at this bar I frequently hung out at.
So I did and He was involved in a dart league I watched him play darts and He was indifferent towards me.
Afterwards we walked out to my car and I asked F what he wanted to tell me (I had a sneaky suspician).
He told me he did not want to see me anymore. I was crushed and told him to get out of my car and a few ___ words. I also said you have MUCH WORSE SKELETONS IN YOUR CLOSET BUT ARE REJECTING ME BECAUSE OF THAT???? Dont ever speak to or call me again!!!
I also found he told everyone in that bar and his buddies about my secret too!
I also had a (mean) evil female friend tell me i would never get married because of my past an because of Dave the ex. doing that to me. Another all together story about a weekend trip with her that turned ugly and nighmarish Talk about demons! that was a memory I would rather forget.
(3 years later) I am enpeople who constantly liegaged to a wonderful christian man (my husband now) 2 weeks before the wedding.
HOW IRONIC! A God moment! hardly a coincidence.
I am at this gas station and one of (F)'s old bar buddies come up to me and ask How I am. I am doing wonderful we talked briefly
I asked How is F? He said still the same still at the bar dating someone (He looked at me dead serious no bar games) and said this but You know what? Knowone he dated will EVER compare to you." You where the best thing that happened to him and you did not deserve to be treated that way. And he was happy. His loss I guess". And yes He does regret it what he did because you accepted him and we would allways tease him and say beauty and the beast ( he was not really good looking by any means but supposedly was nice) he had bull dog features in all honesty.
I said i guess so. He asked how my love life was I said I am getting married in 2 weeks He was unbelievably happy for me and said I deserved the best and Good luck to me!
He said I will also tell (F) you said hello.
I rode home on cloud 9 I knew God was vindicating me allredy and more was to come.
Also the mean lady (I ran into her several years later at the same time period) that was mean said no man would ever want or marry me that incident happend in 1993-2008 she is still single. Being a part time lover to some married jerk sad!
The ex dave seen me and hubby at the zoo VERY HAPPY. I was looking my best . Then, 2 weeks later hubby and I went camping (unknown to us) we ran into Dave again camping 3.5 hours from home. He was still single.
I conclusion here are 3 seperate incidients about God dealing with people that have done me wrong. god reassured me that if did not forgive those people I would never moved ahead with my life and purpose that He has for it. He would of never brought someone who loves me for me regardless of what my past was.
YES!! I had to forgive and release because forgivness released those people and it also brought blessings in my own life and the blessings I have allways wanted which is a loving husband who loves me for me. does not put me down and does not judge me according to my past.
Does any of this sound familiar? I sure hoped I have helped you in any way I can.
Take it for what it is worth. God is allwsome! My redeemer and friend
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